“What I love about life is that nothing is really permanent, it’s ever changing and you’ve got to be ready for it.”
“Always be prepared, but don’t stress out so much, you know?”
If you live in the western world, that’s easier said then done, right? I mean, we are kind of programmed to live at a fast pace, especially if you live in or near any major city. But sometimes, I just want to stop, pause time, and take some time to breathe, and chill, and realize what’s important.
To me, God is number one. Health is number two. Family is number three, and friends, too. But since when did we decide to number our priorities? It’s so superficial. Love is the ultimate goal. Treating people with love is the goal, being kind to others is the goal. Being healthy is the goal. Having a roof over your head and food to eat is the goal. It comes down to the simple things in life. The things you need to survive: food, water, shelter, and love (and music, too).
The more time I get to live on this earth, this extraordinary planet in a never-ending universe, I come to learn that what really matters, at the end of the day, before we sleep, is how we’ve treated people. It is to be kind and generous. But we’re human, so that can be hard at times. It’s important to do an “auto-critique” of yourself. How have you been treating your loved ones, your co-workers, your siblings, your friends, your pets? What can you do to improve yourself. How can you be a better person with each opportunity that you get on this earth?
What can I do to be a better me?
But it’s so easy to get distracted, and get off-course, and let the crazy culture of your society ruin you, and confuse you, and make you believe things that aren’t true. I mean there really is a lot of chaos in this world. We hear about it in the news every day. Things that can really break down our emotions, our feelings and our hopes.
But you have to live your life everyday with the thought,
“Okay, what can I do today to help someone?”
After that, it starts to fall into place a bit. I mean, life is messy, but we can always try to fix the mess, but if it’s too big, we must step away from that mess. We must move on. Learning to let go is one of life’s hardest challenges. It’s a challenge because you’re learning to surrender everything to the unknown, and that can be challenging, but it can also be breathtaking and it can be a release of all stressors.
But one quote that I’ve been continuously forcing myself to look at is this one,
“It’s not about the destination, it’s about the journey.”
I find myself looking at this a lot because I think, okay, when I’m this, I’ll be happy. When I’m that, I’ll be happy. When I have this, I’ll be happy. When I have that, I’ll be happier. Hm.. I’ve come to realize that when you do eventually get to your goal of what you think will make you happier, it doesn’t actually make you happy.
We’re constantly always moving towards the goal, and we find ourselves very unhappy until we reach that goal. When we reach it, we’re happy for about a minute and then we realize, shit… I’m not so happy. I thought I was going to be happy, but it’s not about being happy that you’ve completed something. Now I have to start something new… Happiness…
It’s about learning to be content with what you have RIGHT NOW.
Happiness isn’t conditional, and it’s certainly not based on WHEN you will have something or ALL of the things you have.. Happiness is a choice. It’s a beautiful choice that you can choose to have, or you can ponder on everything that you think will make you happy.
I realize that we can’t change the people around us, we can’t change they way people act or think, but we can change how we react to it, and we can change ourselves. When you do, you’ll be content. But it does take time, and “life’s a marathon, not a sprint.”
What we continually work for, we will eventually be rewarded greatly for it. The reward, in itself, will be a triumph because we’ve worked so hard trying to obtain it. But remember, during the time that we are trying to reach our goals, we can’t think, “Okay, when I’ve finally reached this goal, I’ll be happier.”